I, Gala Vanting, have an Amazon Wishlist

Queer porn empress Courtney Trouble wrote this post last week about dusting off her Amazon wishlist as a means of crowd-funding her work, and it kicked me into gear on creating one of my own.  I’ve been thinking about doing this for, oh, years, and I can’t say with any certainty what’s blocked me from doing so.  I think there are a few challenge-worthy fears at play.  The fear of being seen as greedy or needy.  Of being regarded as having such inflated self-worth that I might suggest you buy me a present.  Of outing myself as a broke ho.

But the time has come to address these things and I, Gala Vanting, have an Amazon Wishlist.

Call me a nay-sayer, but I suspect I’d have limited success launching a Kickstarter for kink gear, or a Pozible campaign to make a feature-length film about my cunt (though I could, and probably will, spend a lot of time thinking about what I’d title said campaign).  But I do see the value of utilising the crowd-funding concept for those of us who don’t have access to the outlandish amounts of capital often associated with both the porn and fetish industries (we shall work together to unpack that assumption at a later date).  Titter if you must, but I think that what I do does have a grassroots sort of quality to it.  I’m starting from nothing, from the bottom.  And I’m doing what I do in no small part because I’m trying to make the world a better place for sex.  I’m sure that riches await me at some point down the line, but now is not my time; trainees in pro BDSM don’t make money.  As I’ve only recently re-entered the industry after a couple of years off, I don’t have the smutmaking momentum re-built to be raking in the middle-class salary I once made as a niche market porn producer / persona.  When you are not a mainstream concern, you do not make mainstream money.

This is where my fans and friends come in.  I know you exist – I’ve got an email archive to prove it, and several sex threats.  Tiny things make a difference for me right now.  Not having to buy a $30 book to continue my pro BDSM training means that I’ve got food money for the week.  Stockings are essential, and highly fragile / disposable.  It’s like that, yanno?  Let’s not even talk about latex outfits yet.  Unless you want to.  In which case, email me.  This is the first of several attempts I’ll be making to keep myself above water while I womanifest a living wage.  Financial slaves: you know where to find me.

porn, youth sex ed, and piracy: a complication

Last week Australian broadcasting company SBS aired an episode of its program Insight called ‘Generation XXX‘, addressing youth & online pornography.  Standardised sex ed in Australia is a hot topic at the moment, and I found it refreshing to see youth representing themselves on the matter, as the popular discourse is generally led by adults.  While the program as a whole was disappointing for someone like me who is on the extreme left-of-centre on this issue, it did bring up some interesting questions for me as a pornographer.

I am of the opinion that porn is a useful educational tool.  I’ve worked on pornographic projects that I’ve also used in educational workshops, and have frequently received the feedback that my work and that of my colleagues has been used, at least in part, as learning material.  We need to see diverse representations of pleasure in order to map out our own.  We learn by watching, and then by doing.  Tell me how you learned to cook.  Tell me how you learned to ride a bike.  You saw it done, and then you did it.  Not always well.  But so it goes.  I’m happy to further discuss whether or not porn is a viable educational tool in the comments, but for the purposes of this piece, I’m taking it for granted that it is.

Youth can’t pay for porn.  Their options are what’s shared between them, on and offline, and what they can find on the web for free.  The tube sites (RedTube, YouPorn, and the like) run the whole gamut in terms of quality and content, from the sacred to the profane, and it’s no simple matter to screen for that which has value as a representation of real sexuality, and that which does not.  Especially if you’re of an age at which you haven’t had enough experience to separate one from the other.

For those of us who make some or all of our living peddling smut, tube sites have become the bane of our existence.  Well, that and government regulating bodies.  And the ‘standards of the community’.  And the shitty American dollar.  But I digress.  While I wish it weren’t so and I’d rather not advertise it, it’s fairly simple to find my content for free with a Google search.  On one hand, I’m enraged that my image can be so freely dispersed and consumed with no compensation for my level of personal exposure, my labour, my vulnerability.  On the other, what I make is a hell of a lot better than what a lot of other people make in terms of its ethics, its politics, and its aesthetics.  It’s been made with attention to detail, with a value on aesthetics, with a personal agenda of raw self-exposure of my goddess-given body, and with an explicitly sex-positivist perspective.  Not all of that is immediately visible when you control-click save-link-as, but it does show if you look closely enough.  And I do think youth are looking closely.

I want my work to be used in an educational context.  I’d like you to share it with your children when you and they have agreed that they’re ready to see explicit sexual imagery.  I’d have loved to have something like what I make 10, 15 years ago.  You know where I went for explicit images when I was first web-enabled?  rotten.com.  Remember that one?  Yeah.  Not exactly a great standard to start with.  And had I known better, I would have seen better.  I would have done better.  And I would have felt a lot more ‘normal’.  But that was all I knew, and Google wasn’t yet a thing.

So: my content is 1) valuable educational material, and 2) freely accessible to youth if they know how / where to look.  And of course this is the clincher – we need to guide them to the stuff that’s going to give them a positive experience, the stuff that’s going to foster a good body image, an understanding of the diversity of available acts / genders / styles / safer-sex practices, and an attitude of self-acceptance in regards to sexuality.  But: I’m also broke.  I’m the brokest ho I know (I should note that I know a very particular demographic of ho – the white middle-class sort).  I have something to gain from combatting piracy, however theoretical that combat may be.  I have a financial investment in being able to sell my smut.  But that potentially removes it from the tubosphere, and thereby from accessibility to the folks who might actually need it.  There’s no way for me to control the use of my pirated content, but if it has the potential to show some 14-year-old girl that squirting is different from pissing and a totally ‘normal’ and satisfying thing to do, do I really want to?

holy fucking april

April was a huge month.  Between Xplore and Sex Camp 2012, followed by an intense week producing a film that I hope to enter in the Berlin Porn Film Festival, I feel completely saturated with possibility, pride, new contacts and energies, and education.  There is so fucking much to do.  And so many incredible folks to do it with.  I had to sleep for two days and then roll around between two gritty walls of dub in an old bank vault to not feel completely buried in that, but I’ve come out the other side now and am starting to actualise.

As someone with relatively diverse modalities of working in this industry, I often find it hard to focus my efforts and energies, and the events of the last month have given me more and more options.  Doors are constantly opening and the number of truly quality folks who appear in my sphere just continues to grow.  And to this I say fuck yeah.

So in May you’re going to see a big push from me towards marketing and branding Gala.  And you may get some spam.  It’s been a very long road to deciding do this.  I know very little about marketing and the term ‘branding’ makes my little anarcho-grrl heart clench all up.  I’m not a fucking capitalist, which is one of the things I like most about myself.  But I’ve given a hell of a lot of myself to my work over the last 6 or so years, and ain’t no dollar value assignable to that.  I’m the brokest ho I know (also a great topic I hope to address at some point), and it really gets me down.  So I’m putting my mind to developing more and more ways in which the folks who enjoy what I offer can help to support me to keep offering it.  We’re all starving artists, I know it, but I can’t help but think that if my cunt is making that art I should be able to afford to look after it a little better.  You should know that I’ll be spending my first million on a permanent vajazzling.

el nombre

I really, really struggle with sex work names / personae.  If it wasn’t such a total disregard for my safety and privacy, I’d use my legal name, which is quite nice, and also a convenient bedroom pun.  One of the things that I feel characterises my work in the industry is that it comes from a very personal place, it’s very ‘me’, it’s relatively stripped of mainstream expectations of a sex worker, it’s not a performance (and I do hope to complicate all of those statements in my writing).  So it is strange to try to name this person-who-does, to characterise her with a moniker.  My domme name came from a plea on Facebook – that’s how much I dread this stuff, and how little competence I feel I have.

When I chose ‘Gala’ as my name for the Feck sites, I didn’t really envision it (her?) becoming what it (she?) is now.  When I resigned from the Feck staff in 2010, I planned to retire the name and appear elsewhere under another name.  But here I am, 7 years down the track from my first contribution, and Gala has built some momentum and, if the tube sites are any evidence, a following of some description.  Now does not seem like the time to abandon Gala.

I also chose the surname ‘Vanting’ a long time ago, not expecting to use it.  I liked the sound, I liked the rudimentary textual play, and mostly I just didn’t think I’d use it.  The time has come to brand Gala a little, to sign up for twitter and facebook accounts, to put my name to things, and I’m trying to work out whether to drop the surname or to change it.  I don’t think Gala stands alone (and I don’t know many four-letter usernames available anywhere these days).  The idea of trying to come up with a new surname makes my head explode.  So, I’m asking for your input.  If you like Gala Vanting, tell me why.  Is it ‘sexy enough’?  Does it need to be?  Is it acceptable as the name of someone who is, perhaps, a sex educator or a presenter or a credible writer or performer or multi-ho?

And if not: got any other ideas?

hit to heal

I’m coming down from Xplore 2012, which did even more in its last 3 hours than it did in its prior 3 days.  I’m not really one for play parties, generally – too much of the general public to negotiate and not quite my style of play – but the space created by Xplore (and definitely the free ticket as my reward for volunteering) made me feel that if ever there was a time, it was probably then.  It was.

You walk away from these sorts of gatherings with a fair bit to sift through, more of it personal than professional (though often for those who work with something this intimate, those things are hard to distinguish from one another).  I had a beautiful 10-hour drive to do some of that yesterday, and carrying all of that stuff down the Hume with me was pretty intense.  This was trips inside of trips inside of trips, this thing, and a couple of those occurred in the wee hours in a dinky bar in industrial Marrickville.  Before they disappear from the forefront of my consciousness, I want to put them to text.

When you navigate other people’s sexualities for three solid days, you absorb a hell of a lot.  Not all of it is yours.  Some people’s energies are harder to interface with than others.  Let alone trying to work out what to do with your own.  I almost got back on the road that night, planning to skip out on the party, but as Sunday afternoon went on and I started to hit the wall and break open a little, it became very un-sensible to stuff it into the car with me and take it flying down the highway at midnight.  So I went to the play party with the intention to let some of that out.

When you ask for what you want, you are more likely to get it.  I made it clear to as many people as would listen that I’d consider it a good night if I left with a few marks.  They came as bruises and scratches in one of the most nurturing BDSM experiences I’ve had.  Every woman involved was queer, feminist, and a couple also are or have been sex workers.  There was something very valuable in that, for me.  Something very safe.  Like I knew exactly with whom I was negotiating and that their top priority was my care.  They each hit me as if it were so.


Red rope binds my wrists and tethers me to a ceiling beam.  There is enough space in front of me to fit a person, and never am I without someone to hold space with me, to be a real point of human contact, to hold my hands, to reflect my experience back at me, to bear witness.  The process of tying is accompanied by very clear negotiations: I will rate the intensity of the strokes to their giver on a scale of one to eleven.  I will safeword with red, yellow, green.  I will be asked regularly about how I am feeling.  I will receive strokes of the flogger from multiple people.  I will become a puddle, and when I have reformed I will fall at the feet of the leader of this scene and worship the boots they stood in as they did so.  I understand exactly what is going to happen and I consent wholly.  I possibly welcome an extra bit of umph behind every swing with the smile that often accompanies me into a scene.  She’s smiling?  Let’s tell her how beautiful it is, and then beat it out of her. 

The first stroke is hard.  My threshold will need to be high, so I move it there.  I grin through the opening blows with that excited feeling you get when you feel like you might have to squeal.  I harness that, focus it, close my eyes and allow the peace of each stroke to pass through me.  The rhythm is slow, and there is a lot of time to spend with each sting.  The effort of moving that impact through my body becomes something I have to concentrate on, and that’s where I begin to enter that meditative, hyper-vulnerable space.

I carry all of my weight in my shoulders.  Often they knot and curl around my heartspace and I have to bring a lot of awareness to them in order to open up my heart.  This is sometimes a painful process.  Strong blows to my shoulders are a good way to bring me to tears.  Salt water healing. 

The flogger changes hands and I am told how incredible I am and how pleasing it is to hit me.  The woman at the other end of the whip now is ancient, is deeply connected with history, with the earth, with the alchemic, the mythic, the esoteric.  I can feel that in her strokes, some of which don’t even reach out to my flesh but are felt just as sincerely.  Behind my closed eyes now is the image of a timeline stretching back into forever, and I remember that it is her tradition that’s being passed onto me as I train as a pro domme.  All of this engages me deeply, connects me to these women around me and the wisdom we share.  The sobs are in my shoulders and I breathe into them.  My breath is a channel now, through which I am allowing tears and blood and neurochemicals to flow.  It keeps me conscious of my boots on the ground.  I need this now.

I close my eyes and let it leak out over my skin.  One woman, a woman who knows, is so pleased to see my tears.  She wants to see them fall to earth.  She knows what a healing space this is, she’s been there herself.  Shared wisdom. Another tells me how beautiful I am, how very strong, powerful.  Every word and every whip is an affirmation.  You are so beautiful.  You are so strong.  I am so loved.

And on it goes, and I dive into that reservoir from which the warm salt water comes, and I connect with everything there is to be sad about, to be grateful for, to feel alive with.  I love the intention with which each of these women cares for me, draws from within me, brings blood to the surface of my skin.  I do not know where I go, for a time, but it is dark in there, a velvet dark that I could fall into like a k-hole.  I return to find that blood to have been drawn out, and that means the trip is over.  No blood on the whip, yanno?  I know.  And I am brought down (up?) from this do-not-know-where-i-go and I begin to pick up the various pieces of my bodily experience – snot, tears, breath, sense of the skin.  I am embraced, I am buried in the scents and warmth and heartbeats of these women who heal, and when I have been appropriately nuzzled I bring myself to the ground to give thanks with lips on leather and fingertips over buckles and my breath on the blackness of those boots.

Thanks to XI, Ana, EL, and Zahra for this.

xplore 2012

I’m on a little journey at the moment.  It’s not quite a holiday, but I’d really like one if your holiday house in such-and-such is a little untended.  A few days ago I began moseying up the coast from Melbourne to Sydney to attend Xplore in Sydney and to make some space in my brains.  I’ve finally landed in a reliably-welcoming queer house in Newtown, having parked my van in the backyard of a whole bunch of people I’ve never met, cooking pasta on a butane stove at 7:30am.  There’s a kitchen about three metres away, like a domestic one, in a house, but camping is romantic, yanno?

Xplore plays with a lot of different approaches to sexuality – some really pragmatic, and others much more spiritually-based.  I think I might be a sucker for this sort of gathering, which I didn’t really know until I attended Barbara CarrellasUrban Tantra training last year.  I find that the spaces created by a whole bunch of curious souls coming together to seek personal and professional development around sexuality to be a pretty supportive environment for me.  I like to be offered a perspective and to make the choice as to whether to try to adapt it to myself.  What I hope to gain from this is a few technical skills to add to my BDSM toolbox, some good body-play, and to be provoked.  Thus far, that’s happening.

One common criticism of these sorts of spaces, and one that I often hold myself, is that they can have a tendency towards the heteronormative, but I’m really finding that to be kept in check here by a few elements.  There is definitely a substantial queer presence here, and I find that to ground things quite a bit.  Having queer voices in these spaces keep things broad and open, and adds dimension to the understanding of every workshop on offer.  Another element that seems to contribute to this space is that this is a kinky space, and if you’ve ever had anything to do with kink culture, you know that openness and frequent checkings-in with reality are essential.  Last evening I found myself in the ‘practice space’ of Tristan Taormino‘s Female Ejaculation workshop surrounded by mostly-queer duos and trios going at their practice while other folks talked glands and ducts, and my heart swelled three sizes.  I am not personally very plugged into queer community, but fuck I’m grateful that it exists.

Something that’s been coming up a lot lately in my work, particularly in professional BDSM, is the topic of ‘performance’ and performative identities.  Stepping back from the sex industry for a couple of years gave me the opportunity to go light on that issue for a little while, which was most rejuventaing.  But it’s reared its Medusa head again, proving itself to be a recurring theme, and one that is definitely addressed by the content of Xplore.  I’m developing some thoughts and words on that now, so watch this space…


Thanks for clicking in.  Getting this live has been a long time coming, and potentially now is not the greatest time for me to be starting a new project.  But I think I really need this space, and so I’m treating it as an act of self-care to get it functioning.  I would like for this to be a piece of my practice as a sex worker, a writer, a maker of things.  There is more to express than I could ever hope to document here.  Right now it’s just a skeleton, but I am eager to write the muscle and flesh into being.  Please stop back frequently.

For those who are unfamiliar with me or with my work, I’d love to link you to blogs of yore, but I’m still undecided as to whether or not I want to connect those to my work now.  Please be patient, and if you have any more specific questions, you can always reach me on ms dot gala dot vanting at gmail dot com.